Workshop Initiating

A as in Anfangen. Initiating. Begin. Get started.

Just how to go about it? How do I start? How do I connect? Meet partners, communicate, all that?


Workshop I as InitiatingStart, begin, initiate!

… just how, oh how?

Ah, sex! Finally! So so good! Only: How do you get there? Where do you meet partners, how do you connect with them? Say Hi? Be open and daring rather than shy? How to step out of your comfort zone? How to risk the risk of rejection?

Isn’t it better to lean back and wait? For somebody to come along? For an option, a person, a space, a miracle?

Initiate. Stop longing, start acting.

Come on: DIY! Do it yourself. Be active rather than passive – take it into your own hands. Stop waiting and depending on others for fulfillment. It’s as simple as that.

Yet most of us have learnt – and this bugger capitalist society enforces it – that somebody else is the provider, giving us what we want & need & desire. That we don’t have a choice but to hope and wait, finally consume. Take only what others made for us & thought/ decided is best.

Let’s unlearn. Let’s re-learn. Let’s step back from consuming, let’s create together.

New options – your very own options. Let’s explore: What do you want? Do you actually know? Are you good at voicing your desires? At communicating them to potential partners? (And where do find partners, anyway? Apart from in this workshop:-?)

How do you make the first step? Say Hi? Say more than just “hi!”? Especially when facing this oh so hot person you absolutely want to get laid by?


We’ll figure it out – at least we’ll try!


A as in Anfangen. Initiating. Beginning. Getting started.


After having started succesfully:
  • Follow-up workshop I as in Intensifying
  • Or come to Anfangen again! Re-start, re-kindle, re-fire. Begin. Again & again. All over. Each time anew.


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The ABC of S.E.X.

Workshop series from A to Z: A as in Alltag, B as in Body, C as in Cruising, D as in Dancing, I Initiating and I Intensifying ...

Current dates:

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More workshops/ book The ABC of S.E.X.:

Missing a topic, a workshop? Want a workshop to come to you, your friends, your city, your community? Write me to bring The ABC of S.E.X. on tour.



The ABC of S.E.X.

Take care of what you want, need, desire. Your sexuality - you own it!

How to go about this, how to start (or continue) being self responsible, this process of creating yourself rather than waiting for somebody else to provide for you ... this is what you'll learn in the workshops.

For tickets see the individual workshops.


The workshops are:

* Hands-on: practice, explore, stop & go, take rests as needed, continue - find your own timing
** What to keep in mind to create a great experience for everyone involved, when going through the alphabet like that?
** What does your body need to know? Techniques, tactics, no-go’s, yes-please’s, communication, exchange ...
** How best to talk about lust, pleasure, desire?
** Last but not least: feeling shy, inhibited, blocked - now what?

Individual requests for knowledge boosts very much welcome: please hand in your questions beforehand per mail, at the workshop itself (also anonymously), or simply ask them out aloud during the workshop.

Most workshops: Maximum of 6 participants to ensure time and space and individual attention - attention for your very individual process of un-learning and re-learning. S*xual patterns, sexuality - yourself, ultimately. Re-define, grow, explore.

Currently the workshops take place in Berlin, mostly. If you want them to go on tour to where you live: write me!

All workshops for FLINT*, if not stated otherwise. What "FLINT*" means: please see my video (in German) under Schlaue Worte

Current A to Z topics & workshops:

A as in Alltag

Alltag: Routine. Every day life. How to be & keep being sexual outside of workshops? You'll learn first steps - in this workshop 🙂

B as in Body

Body. Bodies. Your body, your partner(s)*. Bodies in sex. Body awareness. Stay present, connect!

C as in Cruising

Strolling about in dedicated spaces, deliberately seeking each other out for casual sex - cruising for FLINTA*!

D as in Dancing

Lapdance, striptease, or just plain old dancing to flirt, connect, have s*x fun & a great time. Dance! Like a pro!

F as in FLI*T*chen

Be a Flittchen, play the slut, enjoy! Not a workshop but a party, as simple as that.

G as in Gute Nackt

Good Night, good Naked - Gute Nackt! Party every 3 months, come and be good and naked with us!

I as in Initiating

Initiating (anfangen!) - getting started; begin. Just how to go about it? How do you do the first step? Connect? Meet people, communicate, keep going?

I as in Intensifying

Getting intense. Being intense. Intense s*xuality, intense emotions. Let the fire burn yet stay safe.

S as in Schöner Ficken

Schöner Ficken on Saturday afternoons and Sunday evenings. Every 3 months, come along!

On tour

Want The ABC of S.E.X. on tour? In your circle, city, club, community? Write me.


... your turn! Which letter is missing, which topic would you like to have a workshop about? Send in your suggestions.