Workshop C wie Cruising

C as in Crusing

Learning the game of hooking up for quick sex, or: from flirt to encounter & consensual play


C wie CruisingCruising!


To cruise:

Strolling about in dedicated spaces, deliberately seeking them and each other out, wanting to meet one another for a quickie, on public loos, in parks – that’s how cruising used to be, how it’s defined.

Our cis gay brothers are quite good at it, and used to it, too. They’ve got online dating platforms for hook ups, and plenty of clubs with dark rooms in them. They learned how to cruise back then, when gay sex was punishable, and coming out meant nothing but problems. That put aside – now is the time for us women, dykes, us FLINT*s, to cruise, too.

Learning to cruise

Time to learn and adopt, to talk sex and have sex, pick each other up without apology and no strings attached. No if’s and but’s and way too much small talk, being social & such – just plain straightforward cruising.

Only: How? How does it work? How do we flirt, and how do we turn a flirt into quick sex in the bushes, at home, in a club? How do we turn each other on successfully, pick each other up? And what to do with by-standers, with unwanted attention, with people wanting to join all of a sudden? With perceived unsafe surroundings when cruising in public parks or the like?

Oh so many cruising questions

And do you really end up in the bushes with someone every single time? Do you have to? How far do you have to go to be considered a β€œreal” cruiser?

How about building community? Meet every ones expectations, set rules, set standards? Or don’t set rules? Go free fall?

πŸ”₯ C as in Crusing – soo loking forward to it

Cruising lernen im SeminarπŸ”₯ WE are looking forward to the workshop. Me & Co-Cruiser Maja Buhmann.

Depending on how many particpants there are in the workshop, we will co-teach, so as to ensure that there’s room, space, time for ervery one’s indivudual questions, needs, and learning curve.πŸ”₯

Photo Maja Buhmann by film maker Toni Karat, from Toni’s current project NARCISSISM, in which Maja features among others, and which is the opening movie of the 2022 edition of PornFilmFestival Berlin.

πŸ”₯ Upcoming C as in Cruising workshop dates:

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This workshop is part of the series The AC of S.E.X.

More info: The ABC of S.E.X.

Missing a topic, a workshop? Want a workshop to come to you, your friends, your city, your community? Write me to bring The ABC of S.E.X. on tour.



Beyond the workshop:

Podcast about Cruising:

Maja Buhmann and me were invited to talk about nothing but cruising for one hour, by the “kitschig & glitschig” podcast whose recurring topic is lesbian sex.

Listen to it (in German):

Listen to #34 Cruising on Spotify
kitschig & glitschig on, Instagram, Facebook


Cruising documentary:

reporter approached me re cruising, too, including a short visit in one of my workshops C as in Cruising

Reportage auf YouTube schauen


Cruising Community
A telegram group – feel free to join; you’ll find more info about FLINT* cruising in Berlin: events, exchange – and of course cruising dates, too πŸ™‚


More workshops/ book The ABC of S.E.X.:

Missing a topic, a workshop? Want a workshop to come to you, your friends, your city, your community? Write me to bring The ABC of S.E.X. on tour.

Questions? Comments? - Yes, please!

8 + 3 =

The ABC of S.E.X.

Workshop series from A to Z: A as in Alltag, B as in Body, C as in Cruising, D as in Dancing, F as in Flirting, I as in Initiating and Intensifying ...

Current dates:


More workshops/ book The ABC of S.E.X.:

Missing a topic, a workshop? Want a workshop to come to you, your friends, your city, your community? Write me to bring The ABC of S.E.X. on tour.



The ABC of S.E.X.

Take care of what you want, need, desire. Your sexuality - you own it!

How to go about this, how to start (or continue) being self responsible, this process of creating yourself rather than waiting for somebody else to provide for you ... this is what you'll learn in the workshops.

For tickets see the individual workshops.


The workshops are:

* Hands-on: practice, explore, stop & go, take rests as needed, continue - find your own timing
** What to keep in mind to create a great experience for everyone involved, when going through the alphabet like that?
** What does your body need to know? Techniques, tactics, no-go’s, yes-please’s, communication, exchange ...
** How best to talk about lust, pleasure, desire?
** Last but not least: feeling shy, inhibited, blocked - now what?

Individual requests for knowledge boosts very much welcome: please hand in your questions beforehand per mail, at the workshop itself (also anonymously), or simply ask them out aloud during the workshop.

Most workshops: Maximum of 10 participants to ensure time and space and individual attention - attention for your very individual process of un-learning and re-learning. S*xual patterns, sexuality - yourself, ultimately. Re-define, grow, explore.

Currently the workshops take place in Berlin. If you want them to go on tour to where you live: write me!

Current A to Z topics & workshops:

A as in Alltag

Alltag: Routine. Every day life. How to be & keep being sexual outside of workshops? You'll learn first steps - in this workshop πŸ™‚

B as in Body

Body. Bodies. Your body, your partner(s)*. Bodies in sex. Body awareness. Stay present, connect!

C as in Cruising

Strolling about in dedicated spaces, deliberately seeking each other out for casual sex - cruising for FLINTA*!

D as in Dancing

Lapdance, striptease, or just plain old dancing to flirt, connect, have s*x fun & a great time. Dance! Like a pro!

F as in FLI*T*chen

Be a Flittchen, play the slut, enjoy! Not a workshop but a party, as simple as that.

F as in Flirting

Set that flirt spark flying across the room - just how? Come & learn!

G as in Gute Nackt

Good Night, good Naked - Gute Nackt! Come and be good and naked with us!

I as in Initiating

Initiating (anfangen!) - getting started; begin. Just how to go about it? How do you do the first step? Connect? Meet people, communicate, keep going?

I as in Intensifying

Getting intense. Being intense. Intense s*xuality, intense emotions. Let the fire burn yet stay safe.

On tour

Want The ABC of S.E.X. on tour? In your circle, city, club, community? Write me.


... your turn! Which letter is missing, which topic would you like to have a workshop about? Send in your suggestions.